Romancing the Friend Zone

     A short blog by Writting Rabbit.

The odds are never in your favor.

When I started this blog, I never intended to cover a topic so full of borrowed advice as ‘relationships,’ but this friend zone thing is trending. I’m not here to tell you how to get out of the friend zone. I can’t even give you surefire steps to keep you out of one. What I can give is some helpful tips from a girl to help guys (Ladies, if I could help us, I would.) have a better chance in the world.

-Let’s remember that everyone has been friend zoned at one point or another. It doesn’t mean you’re ugly or lacking, it just means that there’s nothing there to build on. It hurts and it sucks, but move on: It’s the healthy thing to do.

-Guys, please note that whatever sitcoms teach you, REAL ladies don’t need to be complimented every five minutes: We don’t need to be put on a pedestal. We are not queens, princesses, or megalomaniacs (usually) so don’t treat us like we are. After all, hollow compliments are really just lies, and no relationship should be built on lies. (TLDR: “You’re cool” is an adequate compliment to be used only when it fits the situation.)

-Over-protection is not a virtue. A girl can have guy friends that are not on her list of boyfriend material (that friend zone thing, remember?) and she does not need you to scare her friends away. In fact, that might just be a one-way ticket to whatever is past friend zoning. Purgatory zone?

-Have common interests. Yeah, that same old lame advice: But a house can’t stand without a foundation. Common interests are that foundation.

-Balance. Be a friend, but don’t be a friend so long that that’s all she sees you as. How do you find that balance? Get to know each other and find those mutual interests. Somewhere between a week and a month should be enough time. If you discover no mutual interests, stop there. Being just friends is sometimes okay.

-Balls. Grow them. Make a plan for a date. Say something like, “Let’s go here and here as a date.” Make sure to tell her it’s a date. Yes, there is the chance she will say she doesn't want to date you, but, hey, it saves you money and a long awkward night of both of you knowing this is a date and you being the only one happy about it.

I hope I helped a little,

Writting Rabbit

     (because rabbits can't spell)